
Have you ever felt guilty, overwhelmed or even disappointed because you went a little overboard with food? Raise your hand.
Now raise your hand if you’ve had this feeling happen more than a few times a month, or perhaps, more than a few times a week.
Me too.
For some of us, this feeling comes more often than we’d hope for, even escalating during the emotional and turbulent trials of life. And why is that? Well you see, food just isn’t about nourishment (oh how easy it would be then!); often, food offers us meaningful conversations, memories to those we hold dear and a ritual of sorts. At certain points in my life, food has been either the best thing ever or the absolute worst thing that could possibly happen. Sounds extreme, but when you find yourself tortured by food, that’s exactly what it becomes.
To be honest and completely transparent with you, I only write this from the bottom of my heart with full awareness of my vulnerability. This post comes from experience of abusing food for years, without acknowledging or understanding the issue until about two years ago. Admittedly, I’ve been to the deep, dark side of food where everything was on my plate (okay, 5 plates) or when it was completely empty. If you can relate to this, then please know that you’re not the only one. There are MILLIONS of people out there who have a complicated relationship with food. Some hide it better than others and some don’t want to admit that food is their struggle for fear of judgement. Today I full-heartedly admit to you that seeking help for my complicated relationship with food was one of the best things I ever did for myself. I am forever changed and better because of it.
Here’s one of the most important things I learned: The time food becomes problematic or difficult is when we use it as a crutch for something we don’t want to face in our lives. When we abuse food is when there’s something else happening inside that we can’t seem to cope with (or don’t have the proper skill sets to cope with the internal issue). A lot of psychology talk there, but it most certainly has been true in my life.Â
As I continue Wellness Wednesdays, I want to get into topics that aren’t just surface level. I’ve shared a good deal with all of you, but feel I could even get a little more personal when it comes to body image, weight loss and the story of my relationship with food. For now, we’ll keep today’s post a little shorter and chat about what to do after you’ve binged or overeaten; in the future look for more inspiration and stories about my experiences with food and why I’ve had such a difficult time with it for most of my life.

Okay, now onto what to do if you’ve overeaten or binged so you can get back on track to feeling better:
1.) Always start your day with a little breakfast. I know this can be difficult because you may find that you’re not hungry after a late night binge or overeating episode, but it is important to nourish your body to prevent the cycle from happening again. I can’t even tell you how many times I would eat SO MUCH late at night and then wait until past lunch the next day to eat again. The problem was that I’d always end up binging again late at night on the worst foods. I had to force myself to get out of the starve-binge cycle by prepping my meals ahead of time and eating breakfast. A healthy breakfast can help prevent those curb blood sugar dips and keeps your metabolism revving. Even a light breakfast of two eggs or a cup of yogurt is better than nothing at all.
2.) Choose high-protein and high-fiber over high-carb. If you overate, it’s more than likely it was probably on carbs or junk food. The next day, choose lean, high-protein foods like grilled chicken, turkey, eggs, beans or lentils. They provide protein, fiber and plenty of vitamins to get you back on track to feeling better. In my experience it is best to avoid bread and most grains, with the exception of oatmeal. The simpler and more wholesome the food, the better! For example: Dinner could include grilled chicken, garlic roasted asparagus or broccoli and a baked sweet potato with a dab of almond butter. If you’re vegetarian, try replacing the chicken with lentils. Another great option is a hearty vegetarian soup.
3.) Fill your plate with greens, fruits and veggies. Choose color over plain, brown food. Try having a salad for lunch with extra veggies and spinach. Say no to the croutons and extra tortilla strips. Avoid excess dressing and try drizzling with balsamic vinegar instead. For breakfast, a yogurt or protein smoothie with berries is a wonderful option!
4.) Choose healthy fats (nuts, seeds, avocados). Try putting avocado in your morning smoothie or having a handful of roasted almonds as a snack. Incorporate these low carb, healthy fat foods into your snacks as much as possible! Remember to pay attention to serving size.

5.) Drink plenty of water (more than you normally would). This one is one of the most important things on the list. Your body is great at healing itself, so try your best to hydrate it by drinking at least 8 glasses of water. I often drink 2-3 liters per day, but please do what is best for your body. I’m not a doctor.
6.) Avoid processed food out of a box and make your meals at home from scratch. Read all ingredients and educate yourself about what’s in your food. My rule: Google the things I can’t pronounce or what you can’t understand. Of course, we can’t be perfect eaters but making your own meals eliminates a lot of extra additives because you’re more likely to know exactly what’s going in your food. Cooking for yourself can be as easy as you want or as difficult as you make it.

7.) Remember today is a new day. Don’t be so dang hard on yourself. This is only ONE day out of your entire life! So what if you ate too much or even if you ate 5 cupcakes. No one loves you less because of it and it certainly doesn’t define you as a human being. You have to accept your actions instead of dwelling on your so-called faults. I remember I used to have the absolute worst days after I binged. I would sit there completely miserable and unable to shake my feelings of guilt and shame. It took me a long time to love myself the way I do now, but it came after understanding my actions and relationship with food. Bottom line: I’m here to tell you that it’s going to be okay. You have a lifetime of decisions to make, so don’t let overeating or binging bring you down. Talk to someone about how your feeling or write it down, then move on to something else positive. You will survive this, I promise.
8.) Move your body! Time to get that blood flowing. A walk can both help clear your head and make you feel better. Don’t force yourself to go crazy at the gym to make up for what you ate, especially if you’re binging or overeating on a consistent basis. Changing your habits are about baby steps, so take it one day at a time. It’s amazing what a little bit of exercise endorphins can do for your brain and attitude – walking included!
Other things I have done to help make myself feel better:
- –Taken an activated charcoal pill. If you’ve ever seriously overeaten then you know how it can completely throw off your digestion. Activated charcoal helped me tremendously and I highly recommend it. You can read more about its benefits here.
- -Drink water with lemon or a small amount organic apple cider vinegar. I find that the acidity in the lemon or vinegar makes my stomach feel better immediately.
- -Take a probiotic pill or have some yogurt. The probiotics provide good bacteria to help you digest food and nutrients.
Things I DO NOT recommend:
- Going on a juice cleanse immediately. While I love a good juice cleanse every now and then, I don’t recommend doing it just because you want to lose weight immediately or if you overate. It’s much better to fuel your body with whole foods. To be frank with you, your body is much smarter than you think.

That’s all I have for you, but I’d love for you to share your experiences on this subject too!
Do you have any experience with overeating and/or binging on a consistent basis (whatever that means to you)?
Do you have any tips for getting back on track with food?
Anything else you want to share?
By the way, thanks for being so freaking cool and loyal to Ambitious Kitchen. I love you all beyond words. I’m still working on responding to all the posts from this Wellness Wednesday post, but please know that I read them all. xo!

I loved this article because I suffer from a lot of what you describe! I have a terrible relationship with food and have done since I was a chubby teenager. I still calculate everything that I eat but I try to be much kinder on myself when I do overeat (usually on chocolate or carbohydrates (hello there toast!)). Now I just make sure I start each day afresh with a bowl of porridge (50:50 water and lactose free milk, nutmeg and a dash of agave) and go for a good long walk or do some Pilates.
Thanks for being so honest and I LOOOVE your cookies. My husband’s colleagues love your double chocolate sea salt cookies 🙂
This is so ironic, but I just made a batch of your Brown Butter & Sea Salt Chocolate Chip cookies (which are a monthly ritual in my house) and had at least 5-6 cookies… BUT I’ll go for a run tomorrow and have a protein packed smoothie in the morning, because those cookies were 100% worth it!
Thanks for such a great article (and some kickass cookies)!!! 🙂
…..who went on a cruise to the bahamas and ordered french fries 2 nights in a row from room service … sighh *raises hand * lol i loveeeee potaetoes… baked, french, spuds, chips. hash browns! i love them all.. all forms are my weakness , but i took over my life and started my healthy lifestyle about 4 months ago and ive been going strong until that 4 day vacation. . reading this made me feel better.. everybody slips up.. but as long as you dont pity yourself, learn from it, and move on ! itll all be okay . great blog i love this 🙂
I loved reading this ,as I too have struggled with emotional eating when I was struggling with decisions,stress and family issues. Your practical and honest approach motivates me to try . I started walking a year ago Now ,inspired by a friend and I.am cooking everything from scratch so I.know what is in it . Thank you so much .☀
This really hit home today thanks for letting me know I am not alone! Is there anywhere else you share some more details of your story about your past relationships with food and how you have overcome it? I would love to read more!
Shared this post here http://onegirlbreathing.com/2016/02/06/satya-what-is-your-truth/
This is such a great post and will no doubt help so many people. You are so brave. I really admire your vulnerability and strength! <3
Thank you for this post. I will definitely be waiting for additional posts on this topic. It is really good to hear that others struggle with this too so I don’t feel quite so alone and inhuman. I’ve struggled with this for years now and it’s gotten better for sure but it is still there. I am working on cutting out refined sugar again after two years. This setback has been hard. I have read other works that have been helpful in reminding me to love myself and my body – it’s a big struggle since I’ve never gotten to that place. I’m sure seeking professional help for my emotions would be a huge help and something I will keep in mind for the future – at this point I am not in the financial/stable situation to be able to do this. So I will keep searching out positive people in the meantime to help me work through this the best I can. Love the blog!
Cheers, Monique- Such an important topic and one I know many can relate to 🙂
Fabulous post with valuable, helpful information. I had no idea about activated charcoal pill and its purpose. This was new to me and I’m now ordering a bottle to keep on hand. Thank you so much!
This is extremely powerful and wonderful. Great tips for getting back on track in a healthy manner!
Such a great post! It really puts things into perspective! I always make sure to fill my plate with tons of veggies and protein after a day of overeating!
This is a great post. I used to struggle with this on and off as well and had a surprisingly recent episode that threw me for a loop (I blame Mercury in retrograde 😉 But this post came at a much needed time.Thank you for being loving and vulnerable and for putting it all on the table…
Thank you for this. I’ve been struggling with this since I was in high school and lately I’ve been having these same struggles come back into my life. It helps to know I’m not alone!
Sometimes I don’t eat until I’m STARVED and then that leads me to binge and binge on everything–even high protein, high fiber and high fat foods that are supposed to be healthy and filling! I feel really bad about it at first, but I realize that I’m not reaching a “deadline” and I’m not perfect. Binging can also stem from food anxieties, which may mean having to find a happy medium with your fear foods or ridding them of your environment all together.
Thank you so much for writing this post. I’ve also struggled for a really long time with food, emotional eating and then hating/being disgusted with myself afterwards. Then I found you and your website and it’s really helped me and changed my perspective on my eating habits and on how I see food. I thoroughly enjoyed this read and want to thank you for always being so real, open and honest with us. We truly love you for it! Love you Monique 🙂
Thank you so much for this. I have been following your page for 2 years. I am relitivly fit and active. Work out on a regular basis but self sabotoge with food. Im not sure why. I some how make sure my fitness goals are just out of reach by what i put in my body. Thanks for shareing xo
Loved this, Monique! Great tips here – drinking water is huge for me after I overeat…I always feel super dehydrated the next day, so keeping that H2O flowing is where it’s at!
Thank you so much for this today. I have been struggling so with my addiction to sugar recently. This has helped me put my struggles into perspective. I am an older gal, and you’d think I’d have it all in perspective by now. I love your blog…and you couldn’t know how much I needed to read this.
This post totally resonated with me. As someone who’s never been overweight but has had serious issues with food – when stressed, lonely, or needing direction/motivation to make a big decision – I totally relate! It’s such a difficult cycle to break, especially since no one observes the bad habit or sees you as an unhealthy person. Thanks for keepin’ it real.
Thanks for this post; these are good reminders. I think we all feel guilty when we eat the “wrong” foods, and we just have to remember that it isn’t the end of the world and habits can be changed. I personally have a really weird eating schedule–all my meals are late (breakfast at 11 am, some snacks during the day, and dinner at 10 pm…)–which doesn’t really bother me too much. I eat a mostly plant-based diet, minimal amounts of processed foods, and include vegetables with all my meals. My problem is that I tend to fill up on vegetables/fruits and then don’t have room for the rest (like the protein or carbs), and when I try eat more to get some protein, etc., then I feel really full. I have been trying to get better about cutting back some of the veggies and focusing on getting more whole grains and tofu on the plate so that I don’t feel uncomfortably full just trying to get all the nutrients in. Thank you for the reminder to be balanced!
What a great post! I, like you and many commenters above, have a really complicated relationship with food. I hate it, I love it. Sometimes I don’t eat the right things, and I eat too much of the wrong things. I feel guilty, I feel fine, I feel like giving up. I hate my body, I love my body. Food rules the lives so many of us today – a sad and scary thing. Thanks for taking time to address that huge issue while being so open in sharing your vulnerabilities.
As someone who indulged last night on a celebration dinner and lots of wine, I really needed to see this today! Thank you for giving such good advice. I am already on track with my high protein breakfast and salad for lunch. Now to go chug that water!
Thank you for your honest post! You are an inspiration! I struggle with this too and have finally seeked out therapy and it’s helping tremendously!! For me, it’s all about trusting and listening to my body, which can be very scary after years or decades of not trusting it. It’s taking baby steps to break away from my measuring cups, food scale and weigh scale! But when I do, there is an I nitial overwhelming fear, followed by a sense of freedom. That feeling is amazing!
I’m so glad that you’re finding and promoting ways to change habits that aren’t extreme. There are so many people out there that do promote the quick fix that doesn’t deal with the issue at hand. Sometimes overeating is about more than just the food…..well, most times. I used to work at this great place (Green Mountain at Fox Run in Vermont) which helps women with this very issue as well as other problems with fitness, wellness, nutrition, etc. The biggest take away that has helped me in life is Mindful Eating. This can be paired with intuitive eating patterns that many people are big on, but the whole point is AWARENESS! Recognizing you have a problem can lead to change….but how does it become lasting? I use mindful eating daily by asking myself these questions:
1. What do I really want? As in, why am I eating, what sounds good, etc.
2. How will eating this make me feel? I try not to demonize any foods or label some as good or bad or healthy or unhealthy. Sometimes your body craves something and instead of punishing myself for eating it…I refer back to question 1….Is it what I really want?
3. What is it like eating this food? The last one is more of an assessment of the experience. As I eat I consider the smell, the look, the consistency, the flavor of my food. I chew with intention and savor. If I eat with others I consider their impact on my eating. I consider the things I’m doing while I eat and the things I drink while I eat. All of these things make me more aware and allow me to stop when I’m full and satisfied with the experience. They also allow me to know when I’ve made a choice that didn’t really satisfy question 1.
I have never really had a binge episode but I know the feeling I get when I try to restrict foods and eat less, it always back fires and you eat more than you intended to if you just would have ate when you were hungry! What helped me is having a meal plan, seeing how much food volume wise I needed it was a big wake up call!
This is great advice! I especially overeat on holidays, when I eat so much that I feel super uncomfortable and have to take a big nap. I hate that! I can’t wait to hear more about your personal story – I also struggled with a bad relationship with food and finally can enjoy it without guilt or fear. Thanks, Monique!
Monique
WOW…the power of the pen, well…maybe in this case a PC or laptop…but still the same effect.
It’s been a struggle (I think it’s hidden) for many, many years for me too…
Thank you …endlessly for this post. You’re right…maybe in some cell in my brain I “know”, I’m not the only person on the surface of the earth with this issue…but on any given day or in any given moment I can NEVER locate that darn cell !
You have provided much comfort… and hope. We’ll continue to walk this road together…
Great tips Monique! I believe keeping a good perspective on the situation definitely helps. Just remember that it is only one instance and that you have a choice each day to start fresh and make healthy choices for your body. Love these honest talks!
I completely agree with you. 🙂 Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment. xo
Thank you so much for this post. It means more than you can possibly imagine!
You are so welcome. 🙂
Monique! I so appreciate this post. I love that you are walking out your health journey with such grace and humility! I’ve struggled with food addiction ever since I could remember. I always thought I was crazy until I started reading the effects that sugar and fat have on the brain. (Similar to a drug addiction!) In 2015 I got a handle on it and have been successfully living out from under the control of food! I still have some personal goals as far as weight goes but I’m writing a book about my approach and freedom from addiction! 🙂
That’s amazing, Bri! Please let me know when your book comes out!
Thanks for this! These past few days have been way too snack heavy. Time to get back on track!
I opened this post up first thing this morning before diving into my work emails. I felt drawn to it for some reason, and I am so very thankful that I read it. Your words spoke to me in ways I can’t even explain. After many years of the constant cycle of binge eating and dieting and the shame and negative emotions that go with it, I finally feel like I’m not alone in this. I feel inspired to begin again, but hopefully this time make it last by incorporating healthier whole foods. I also feel inspired to look for professional help to get to the bottom of the emotional roller coaster that dictates my eating habits. Divorce and death of loved ones are a big part, but I know it’s time to face the demons “so to speak”. This may sound like a lot and a huge revelation from one blog post….but, I think this may be life changing for me. Thank you so very much for sharing your story!! I’m ready…
This is so wonderful to hear, Doreen! Sometimes the most difficult times in our lives challenge our ability to cope, and some people use food to forget (me). I’m glad that you found some strength within this post. I wish you the best of luck on your journey. 🙂
I love this Monique, so honest and relatable to my life last year. I agree with every tip you gave, especially the one about eating breakfast. SO important! I also find that getting in an extra “clearing-of-my-head” walk helps to get my mindset back in the right place to loving myself and understanding that everything is OKAY. We have to stop thinking of food as the enemy, it’s what fuels us! Sure, cupcakes might not do the trick, but sometimes ya gotta have a cupcake! Or three. Either way, no reason to beat yourself up! 🙂 Thank you for sharing, you’ve always been a huge inspiration to me <3
Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment, Marina! 🙂 I’m glad you found a little inspiration.
It seems as though my pattern the last year has been starting and restarting everyday. It is so discouraging. I’ve avoided the scale but my clothes don’t lie I know I’ve gained at least 30 pounds. I’m very depressed and I know this process starts in the head. I know what it feels like to be in control and out of control. I know the good feeling and the very negative feeling of loosing control. It is an addiction to be sure and if I could just stop eating I think I would be fine, but that isn’t an option. thanks for your input all of it makes sense. Nothing I didn’t know but obviously I’m not applying it. Today is a new day, thank you